So I was thinking, at work, as you should do so your brain doesn't rot from too much monkey-manual labor, about the idea of finding this one unique person you'd love for the rest of your life, your soulmate. I found out people think of the soulmate as the lover-partner in their life, the opposite sex in most cases. This is where I found the first difference, I never had this restriction- believing a soulmate is the opposite sex, I've often thought of my female friends as soulmates. The second difference is it's supposed to be one unique person who grasps you completely. But why one person? Is it demeaning to the concept of a "soulmate" that each of us can have more than one? Think hard of your good friends and why you are with them. Don't they feel like they have a profound bond to you, like they've known you from ages before you met and no matter what happens things will never be irreparable and awkward to the point of unfamiliarity between you? So are these friends not worthy to be called your soulmates? For me they are, and I see nothing incorrect in praising these people, because to me they are as much a family as a lover would be.
Let's throw away my concepts, they are not the main point here, though they are important to know you must forget them for the time being and think of the mass idea- there is one person in this world, a unique snowflake, who matches your unique snowflake shape to compliment it. Okay, supposedly there is an infinite diversity, and we there are currently a bit over 7 billion of us on Earth, and so the thesis of unrepeated individuality seems legitimate. However, we all know people who are too similar to each other, and this is because individuality is shaped by a well-big number of circumstances and conditions, but they are not quite as diverse in actuality, as in theory. For example, moms and dads are a restricted number of types, and they differ greatly only in the small details. We are all unique in the insignificant detail and how they are combined in us. The fact of the matter is, we can love somebody for the details, but we can disregard the details we do not like about him, given certain desires and mindset.
As this makes for a legitimate, even mathematical argument against the idea of uniqueness, people themselves are walking discrepancies of their own belief of the one true soulmate. Nobody really has information how this person they are searching for looks like, right? Even if it came to you in a dream you had, this is no dependable source of information. However, what people do is they set firmly an appearance for their unique soulmate. Whether a woman demands a strong tall man, or a male sees his female counterpart as bone-thin and "cool" as in not wearing makeup and fake satin dresses, it's all the same. Demanding blue or green eyes from your soulmate might as well guarantee you that you miss him/her. Given clothes hint about a person's character, there is also the chance you interpret them wrongly, because crappy people wear all sorts of attire, honestly! The fact a person can still find happiness and he would pledge it is true love under these circumstances with different men/women only shows soulmates either don't exist, or are not unique at all, the fundamental mass concept is all wrong. The understanding and admittance of our own shallowness and pretense is a painful achievement. Human nature is not as beautiful as certain leaflets want you to believe, don't read the pretty banners and the dreamy photos of sunsets with "wise" words in a suitable font on them. Perhaps my pride that I have set no such physical limitations is stupid, but I find some utility in this fact. Of course I don't like every appearance, but I give character a chance to shine and blind my tastes in physique (because we all have them actually, as liquid as they may be). The reason to remain with one person for the rest of your life is he gives you what you need, you bond and this is a process that takes time and emotional investment and once you have such a man/woman beside you, there is no need to change them, ever, you are committed and whole, but this might as well have been somebody else with the same general personality and intentions. Just do not tell yourself that when you look at them, NEVER. Forget it and live the illusion of uniqueness, it is the spice that makes the food tastier. We've mastered the craft of living with our own bullshit for the sake of a fairy-tale life. Perhaps we should've burned those books ages ago, but tales are a core part of our nature and maybe they are actually the product and tool of it, our nature triggered their existence and not vice versa.
Yes, you are bullshitting yourself, but do not reveal this, you will probably never get over it and deal with it. After all, you are only human...
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