being lonely is easy

picking the right company - now that takes guts

first principles

 if the stop is "what are they going to do to me when they find out?"

instead of how much this is going to hurt others -> not a good person

Heaven is the proverbial carrot

Hell the proverbial stick

if, as a grown person, only they stop you from being a monster...

you're just a monster on a silk leash.